You No Longer Deserve to be Pacified

This may be the single hardest part of breaking up or divorcing. This occurred to me while pondering the different ways I could manipulate my client's spouses to give them what they want. It's not that easy because once you break up all bets are off. He doesn't have to worry about dealing with you later, and to be frank, he doesn't care if it hurts you. That is the ugly truth and extremely frustrating. To go from getting what you want to getting the cold shoulder. You imagine your previous arguments and remember his teary eyes and him begging you or promising things will get better. Get over that right now, because it is not going to happen again. 80% of relationships that end and then reunite break up again within 1-3 months.

Learn to accept that you are no longer the most important thing in his life. Learn to accept that he will not give you more visitation, or support, or the crockpot- It's over. When negotiating the terms of your divorce change your frame of mine, you are now dealing with a stranger, sad but true.